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9 Ways To Begin Accepting Yourself As You Age


Accepting yourself is a process that becomes a habit. The little things you do, or fail to do, each day determine your level of self-acceptance. Developing these useful habits and dropping the negative habits is a huge step in the right direction. It’s hard to accept yourself any other way.


Be accepting of yourself each and every day by making these actions a habit:


1-Let go of your mistakes and failures. Take the necessary time to learn from your negative experiences. Once you’ve done that, there’s nothing else to be gained by them. Let them go.

  • Decide how you can avoid making the same error in the future. Then move on.


2-Only compare yourself to yourself. Comparing yourself to someone else is like comparing a tree to a loaf of bread. There’s no comparison. However, you can compare yourself to your previous results.

  • If you’re doing “better,” you have every right to be excited.
  • If you’re coming up short, be excited that you know you can easily rectify the situation.


3-Separate yourself from your emotions. Your emotions are separate from you. They are something that you’re experiencing, just like someone stepping on your toe. Observe them as a feeling in your body, or as a piece of paper blowing down the street. Just observe them.

  • A piece of paper blowing by doesn’t have any control over you. Your emotions don’t have to control you either.


4-Be aware of what makes you unique and embrace it. It might be your flaming red hair, your incredible IQ, or your compassion for animals. Maybe you’re in the bottom 5th percentile for height. You’re not exactly the same as anyone else.

  • It’s your uniqueness that potentially provides the most value to you and the world.


5-Let go of the things you can’t change or control. You’re not accepting of your life or your limitations if you worry about those things beyond your influence.

  • Ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do about this?” If not, there’s no reason to dwell on it.


6-Do something that you’ve always wanted to do. Avoid denying your impulses. If you’ve always wanted to learn how to play the bagpipes or write a screenplay, now is the time. 

  • When you deny your healthy impulses, you’re not accepting yourself.

7-Be more assertive. Let people know what you think. Give your opinion. Allow your voice to be heard. Do the things you want to do. 

  • Assertiveness is a form of honesty – about you and your own desires.


8-Recognize your thoughts and feelings. Examine your self-talk. Stand in front of a full-length mirror and take a good look at yourself. Notice your thoughts throughout the day. Acknowledge how you judge yourself.

  • Most people distract themselves with TV, the internet, food, their smartphone, or some other strategy. This is to avoid spending time with themselves. Turn off the distractions and notice what happens.


9-Continue evolving. Those with little self-acceptance tend to be stuck. They can’t move toward anything positive.

  • Be honest with yourself about what you like and dislike and allow your life to evolve.